Good Parenting; Parent-Child Relationship Part II

Welcome to the part II of this topic. Do you sometimes wonder how you can be a better parent...


or let me rephrase that: Do you sometimes wonder if there's a way to measure how great you are as a parent? I'm sure a lot of us do, I also know that a lot of us imagine having well behaved kids at all times who do not need much discipline, they do as they are told and you do not need to repeat a certain instruction too many time. The answer to all these is simple all you need as a parent is to create a closer relationship with your child, have a connection, don't just say how much you love them show them constantly...I know some folks right now are wondering what I mean and if by showing a child so much love will not cause the child to lack proper discipline. 

Loving your child can be relative, some of us think that giving our kids all they want means we love them;  our love for them needs to reflect in our actions towards them. When we make promises we keep it, let our actions reflect what we expect from them don't say one thing and do another.

                                              "This sounds like a lot of work 

                                                               To me" 

In the first part of this series we discussed how hard it can be to manage our lives and career, so managing another human being can be a whole diff ball game. There are older parents today who say one of their regrets in life is the poor relationship with their children, we need to attend to our children because what we attend to flourishes. 

   

Here are some steps to help us on our way to being a good parent:

Start Right:The connection between a mother and her child is a lifetime experience, this is not only because she is the mother but also because of the bond between mother and child. Some children are not close to their mothers because their mothers did not nurture them. We as mothers need to start right, make sure we bond with our children so that there will be that lifetime connection. Research also shows that some Fathers who create this bond with their Babies when they are born stay closer to the child throughout his / her lifetime. 

                                               "For me I think paternity leave should be 

                                                                     introduced in Nigeria"

Relationship takes work: All relationships takes work, they take extra push to make it work, marriage, courtship, even parent-child relationship takes work. Loving our children comes naturally but as they grow older we need extra push along the way to maintain a healthy relationship with them but one thing is sure,our children loves us just as much as we love them in case you are wondering if this love is supposed to be a one sided affair.

Quality Time: spend time with your child, you can bond in those time spent together it's one of the most important thing that strengthens the Love between a parent and a child I know it might seem like a daunting task but try and set out a time for your kids because it is the time we spend with them that will become their cherished moments. You can not expect a good relationship with your child if you don't invest in spending time with them, it might take time but it will be worth it in the end.

Do you know ways we can improve our relationship with our children? you can share with us, let's hear it right here, we all need ideas from each other. Meanwhile in my next post I will continue on how we can still strengthen the relationship with our children.